Acts of Kindness DAY2

Day 2 love this kind
Todays Dare

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.


Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has forgiven you Ephesians 4:32

what an amazing day it has been today, and the joy that I felt when I woke up in the morning and saw the snow on the ground. Yes I still found the joy in the snow even though I'm missing Hawaii LOL. It's all about what's in the heart and enjoying what is given. It was a day of personal time with the boys and really putting into practice this kindness thing. =). I can tell you being locked in a small apartment with snow outside is a great way to practice kindness; not with just me but both the boys also. I can't tell you Micah has felt the close quarters today. Elijah has enjoyed the close space, and with that teasing his brother.

As I read through and saw how I was supposed to have acts of kindness, I realized that I don't have a problem with acts of kindness towards my friends, it seems that the family is the one that gets the short end of the stick.so I sat back today and asked myself why. Why is it I can have kindness and patience towards other people, but when it comes to my family there seems to be none. So today has been a day of working on not only patients, but kindness. Patients when food is brought into the living room again,and kindness with the words that I use to repeat that food is not allowed in the living room. Seems that there is a lap in judgment and remembering when it comes to food outside the kitchen or dining room . Seems like an easy instruction for the all those involved, but according to Elijah he can never remember it. So today was a day of remembering patients and kindness when instructions are repeated over and over again.:)

When it has come to my marriage kindness and patience was not always involved, but over 21 years we have learned that when kindness is involved patients always seems to follow. Ther've been times when I did not want to show kindness; no there were times I did not show kindness when kindness was needed. When I didn't want instructions on how to cook or how to clean, but Keith always seem to be there instructing me how to do the task. So instead of showing acts of kindness and letting him believe that his way was better I snapped off my mouth, and nothing but mean words came out. The moment I had that choice to show kindness and patience. I instead showed anger and selfishness. So as I went through today, and the dare before me;I was able to reflect on how my words can cause peace or anger. It's my choice. It's not Keith's fault, it's not Micah's fault or even Elijah's. I make the choice to show kindness and patience so that love can prevail and not anger.

Today as I sat reading my love Dare, thinking about how I can show kindness to Keith with him being away. I looked over to the side, and there sat an army bag that Keith intended to put away before he left. So instead of complaining about the bag being out I got up packed the bag and placed it back in the closet. That doesn't seem like a big thing to many, but if you're a military wife you understand what it means to have a uniform bag out. With that means military equipment and clothing and flight gear and lots of papers. So instead of not showing kindness and understanding I packed a bag that I normally would leave alone, because I vowed I wouldn't never ever ever pack another army bag. That was nine years ago, and I haven't packed one sense. So Keith your bag is packed army gear is fine and it's put away. I love you, and I hope and pray you are able to see the gift I gave you today, while learning how to give of myself. I don't know if the bag is packed correctly. I don't even know if I could tell you what is in the bag. But I can tell you that all the army gear is securely in your bag and in the closet nice and neatly.

my marriage is the most important thing to me next to God. As I continued this journey I am excited to see what growth will come from this. I am excited that my kids are able to witness how important a commitment to marriage is. Marriages become to some something that is easily thrown away, and easily walked out on and given up on. I want nothing more than my kids to know when they make a commitment to that person they decide to spend the rest of their life with. That it's a life long commitment not something to walk out on when things get tough. Not something they can use as an out, but something they always put their heart and soul in. So when they say their vows they don't take them lightly. marriage takes work. There will be tough times, there will be times that they feel unloved and cared for, and just want out. I pray it is at that time they can look back on their parents marriage and the commitment they had to each other during storms that will make them want to stick it out and see their marriages blossom.

Keith, you are amazing man, and amazing husband, and an amazing father. You continue to give of yourself even when times are tough. There have been times our marriage should not have lasted but because of your faithfulness and your love; I can say I love you more than I did 21 years ago when I said I do. You're my heart and soul, your are my rock. And I can honestly say that if I had to do it all over again I would do with you. Your present of the Dragonware has been a wonderful blessing not only to the boys, but to me also. I am getting the blessing of being able to blog without stressing over typing. You are amazing, I love you always and forever.