" Pray as if everything depended on God; work as if everything depends on you" When it comes to deployments and making it through each day, I believe this concept is a must. Tackle the most pressing need of the moment, then of the day. Ask God to give you the patience to keep at it. and choose to be spirit- controlled during those times you feel overwhelmed. Pray, pray, pray, PRAY without ceasing then WORK work work because guess what hubby won't be home for months on end.
I am learning how to balance leadership of a family and balance my health, spiritually, physically and mentally. I'm learning not to forfiet good family communications due to being busy from things around the home. I believe it was last deployment when my daughter who was 14 at the time came up to me and said " I know there's alot of work for you to do mom. How can I help?" At the place in her life there wasn't much she could provide for physical assistance, but her sensitivity to my needs was heart warming.
I need to learn to exercise that same sensitivity toward others - even during deployment. We teach our children that true joy comes for living selfessly- Jesus first, others second yourself last. with that said, When do I show her its also important to put yourself first some times, this is an issue I am struggling with because I live to make sure my family is takin care of, When keith leaves that stress gets higher because I become the single parent. I tend to forget myself , put things to take care of myself to the side because my husband and children come first. Because of this, holding things inside, becoming stressed, and not allowing my church family to help for so long. It began wearing on my body. I'm struggling physically. I am learning its ok to say NO, its ok to say I need just a few hours to myself, its ok to go to the beach alone and just sit quietly.I'm learning its ok to call church friends and tell them I'm overwhelmed, I'm stressed and I just need someone to listen. Its a part of honesty, and I'm learning its important to make known my concerns not hold them inside and pass them off as to much for someone else to bear. I want to show my kids, we will go through valleys, but we don't need to go through valleys alone.
Remember when you see a soldier, your clapping for him, praising his sacrifice and you see his wife next to him. Take the time to stop and say thank you. We give up one of the biggest things in our lives, our husbands, our families, normal freedom that my husband fights for. And we do it .. all out of love for our husbands and our country. Your military spouses need to know its worth it also.
I am learning how to balance leadership of a family and balance my health, spiritually, physically and mentally. I'm learning not to forfiet good family communications due to being busy from things around the home. I believe it was last deployment when my daughter who was 14 at the time came up to me and said " I know there's alot of work for you to do mom. How can I help?" At the place in her life there wasn't much she could provide for physical assistance, but her sensitivity to my needs was heart warming.
I need to learn to exercise that same sensitivity toward others - even during deployment. We teach our children that true joy comes for living selfessly- Jesus first, others second yourself last. with that said, When do I show her its also important to put yourself first some times, this is an issue I am struggling with because I live to make sure my family is takin care of, When keith leaves that stress gets higher because I become the single parent. I tend to forget myself , put things to take care of myself to the side because my husband and children come first. Because of this, holding things inside, becoming stressed, and not allowing my church family to help for so long. It began wearing on my body. I'm struggling physically. I am learning its ok to say NO, its ok to say I need just a few hours to myself, its ok to go to the beach alone and just sit quietly.I'm learning its ok to call church friends and tell them I'm overwhelmed, I'm stressed and I just need someone to listen. Its a part of honesty, and I'm learning its important to make known my concerns not hold them inside and pass them off as to much for someone else to bear. I want to show my kids, we will go through valleys, but we don't need to go through valleys alone.
Remember when you see a soldier, your clapping for him, praising his sacrifice and you see his wife next to him. Take the time to stop and say thank you. We give up one of the biggest things in our lives, our husbands, our families, normal freedom that my husband fights for. And we do it .. all out of love for our husbands and our country. Your military spouses need to know its worth it also.
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